All my amazing readers, thank you for the wonderful advice- I am afraid I have given you all such a bad outlook on my relationship that we come across as unstable and hey maybe we are, but relationships are hard work, and there will be disagreements and misconceptions. I just tend to rant about all the bad things without telling you all how great he is-and how we have an amazing time together. When it comes to having children it is just not something I can compromise on, and if he does not want them or has changed his mind over time, we just need to figure that out and move on.
Will I still love him if he does not want children-of course I will, but what that says is that we are just at different times in our lives and want different things. I will not have regretted anything-I will have lived and learned. What I do know is that I want to be a mother, I want the stress I want the poop and the puke. I want to stay up all night to make sure they are okay, and I know I was meant to do this. Not because I am a woman and I have a calling, but because it is something I really want. I would not blame him for wasting my time, and I would not blame him for changing his mind, that is up to him. I do not want to pressure someone into having children, and relationships do not work on ultimatums. I would prefer to part our ways over this then finding someone cheating or because we are not in love anymore...
That being said, I will share someone else's problems with you today lol, while I try to figure out my own. You have said your piece and so have I, now it is up to me and him to figure out what the heck we want to do and what our future entails. Love you all!
The other night I took my wife out to dinner and a movie at Town Square. We had dinner at the Yahrd House and then after the movie went back to the bar for drinks.
So we were drinking at the bar when she got up and went to the ladies room. I guess while she was coming back she ran into some guy she knows from her work. He's a former coworker that was her supervisor and trained her when she started there about 7 years ago.
So after a half hour of her being gone, I go looking for her and find her sitting with this guy. Ok so far no problem, you know just friends running into eachother having a quick drink getting reacquainted. Completely fine.
The first problem I have is that he never invited me to join them, in fact he acted annoyed that I was even there. I also noticed that she made no effort to include me in their conversation. They just sat at the bar talking, flirting and drinking, while I stood there with no seat just waiting and looking like an idiot.
After a couple of hours of being ignored I asked her if we could leave and she said that I could go but she wanted to stay and her friend could give her a ride. When I started to protest, the guy got all mad and said I was being a jerk about it. They exchanged their phone numbers and made plans to meet up for drinks the next night without me.
So now me and my wife aren't talking, she went to the beauty parlor today and she is going shopping with her sister for new clothes and shoes and is going out with this guy tonight without me.
She says it's all my fault because I was a jealous jerk the other night so I am not invited.
Should I go anyway or just ignore it?