I am so tired of married men complaining about how we do not 'put out' as much after we are married. Maybe if you guys gave us a little romance once and a while we would be more inclined to 'put out'. I mean just because we are married does not mean you do not have to smoooze us anymore. Surprise me, romance me, make me feel sexy, not all the time but every once and a while would be nice. I mean I am your wife not some porn star that you can screw and then roll over and go to bed. I do my share of fulfilling your 'desires' so why am I not inclined to receive the same in return? Sometimes I just want to know that you know I am there, it feels like I could be anybody and you would not even notice! Baby puke and my mummy tummy do not exactly make me feel sexy or desirable so you could help me with this, but instead you just complain, thanks.
Yeah and you cannot tell him you want romance, you just want him to figure it out, I hear yah
ReplyDeletei think most men are simply clueless when it comes to this, and they think the more time you are together the less of a need for romance-- boy could they be more wrong
ReplyDeleteBaby puke and my mummy tummy do not exactly make me feel sexy or desirable so you could help me with this, but instead you just complain, thanks
ReplyDeleteI HEAR YOU ON THIS.
Guys really don't think about romance and stuff like that. It's not built into them.
ReplyDeleteI think most men if they really love you they can see your beauty threw the puke, and the extra tummy.
If you want romance don't hint around or wait for your husband to do something (or you'll be waiting forever!). Why not talk about it? Instead of nagging?
Or, maybe if you worked out a little, and putout, he would put more effort into everything. I would have dumped you, so you must have a decent man.
ReplyDeleteI married a woman just like you. After the children were born she withdrew sex till she was ready for another one. I tried everything to make it work.
ReplyDeleteI cooked cleaned, did laundry, changed and bathed the kids took care of appointments for my stay at home wife. She slept in and was always too tired for sex. would sit up reading at night till she was sure I was asleep.
On our tenth anniversary I gave it one last try. I got a sitter for the kids.. (Her mom) booked us a nice dinner took her out dancing and a nice hotel for the night. Then she said to me " I think your treating me like a hooker if you expect sex now."
I am still married... (stayed for my kids benifit) I never again celebrated an anniversary.
My kids have all left the nest now and I'm too old to start over. I moved out of our bedroom as soon as the last kid left home. I went outside my marriage to have my sexual needs met.
I have not even touched her in seven years and don't plan to.
If you want to deny your husband sexual intimacy he will do the same thing.. or leave altogether.
Good luck in your approach to marriage. I was a decent father to my kids made sure they got their education ect.. but as far as I am concerned my wife and I have been divorced since our tenth anniversary.
all i want to say is hilarious but so fucking true :)
ReplyDeletemeetoo, wow, what a look into your life, thank you for sharing, you tried though and that's all that matters. I do not condole your actions, but at least you tried!
ReplyDeleteThe point about romance is it's not meant to be left to one person. You're meant to do nice things for/to each other.
ReplyDeleteMeetoo, it's not fair for you to say "I married a woman just like you" just because this person is asking for a little romance. She seems to want sex, but a little more as well - not to cease altogether. It sounds like you have earned your bitterness over your wife, but you don't need to make comparisons when it's clearly two different situations.
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