Relationships & Cancer

Queen, this is a rant to my ex,

Let me start out by saying that I was blessed to have you in my life. We dated for a while, even after I shared my entire freaky cancer survivor story. Yes, I survived it - a rare form that really did a number on me. Never was I given anything close to a terminal prognosis, but it still shook me.

You didn't run away, and you were awesome, at first.

But by month 8, I let you know that I had cancer follow-up appointments coming up, and said I was a little worried, but not freaked out about. Just know, these are the very words you said: 'I can't help you,' and 'how many more of these follow-up appointments do you have?' Then, you just walked away. To answer your question about how many more...even being cured, it's for the rest of my life. It's cancer. That's just the way it is. It doesn't matter if I had it 20 or 2 years ago. How would you have reacted if it ever did come back?

Why I didn't just leave you after that, which I thought about at least a few times a week, I guess it's just never only been about me. Your lack of compassion, anger, constantly asking if I was cheating or looking for someone else...all were big red flags. You accused me of flirting, even reading too much into friendly exchanges. You even came by one night, looking for me, when I'd clearly let know I was working out, and would call when back home. When you came by, I knew something was very wrong, possibly an emergency. Then you asked if I was seeing someone else. ???

But you hated your job, had money problems, and I was afraid you were severely depressed, possibly heading in a downward spiral. You even said at one point,'I feel like I'm being pulled in ten different directions, no time for myself!'

Well, you were laid off, so that's out of the picture. Still got the condo? Probably, but how's it going? My hunch is that you're in a new 'relationship.' Sometimes you can pick up on certain networking site details without trying to. And, by the way, it was weird to be asked if you could send me a friend request, since you mentioned you weren't sure where you'd be after the lay-off, and asked for advice. I never received the request. Cool.

You're basically a good person, and wish you well. But just know the things you said to a cool guy who kicked cancer's ass...that's embarrassing!

Take care, lady.