A Letter To My Soon To Be Ex-Wife

Queen,

I wrote this to my ex, and I would like to get some feedback from your readers if at all possible.

Dear Future Ex-Wife,

I love you and I am going to miss you.

I can't live without sex.

The sex is infrequent. And it is hurried. Oral sex is off the table. In fact, your breasts have been off the table for 2 years now. Once a month is ridiculous. And when I ask for it, it is pity sex, which is the worst.

The rejection I constantly receive is humiliating. It used to make me feel as if I was ugly, or unworthy of being loved. Then I realized that I am actually in amazing shape, and I am in better shape then when we were married. And I am a decent human being, who provides for his family, is a great dad, gets you gifts and pays attention. I wish to have some warmth, even a hug, from someone who I want to spend the rest of my life with.

I am sick of being made out that I am an over demanding freak.

Being tired doesn't cut it. I'm the one doing the laundry, making lunches, picking up all the slack for everything in the house. I'm tired, and I'm really tired of all the excuses. And I was never tired of you, or listening to you, until now.

Sometimes, I would even just love a hug, and a passionate kiss. And you are unable or unwilling to do so.

I have discussed it with you. I have been more than attentive. And where you have asked me to improve myself, I have. You just happen to not want to change anything.

I can't spend the rest of my life hoping that one day you will love me, be physically warm, or interested in me sexually. It's not reasonable to think that at the age of 65, you will finally turn around...why would anyone wait that long for someone who is so uncaring.

I am sure there is one woman who will love me for me, and will not hesitate to show me. I honestly thought it was you. That is why I married you, why I hug you, why I go to work, why I listen to how your day was, what you are interested in doing.

So now I am saving my money so I can get a bachelor apt for myself, and mentally preparing for everything I need to give up.

I am ok to start all over again. Others have done it, and I am so fed up, I am not going to even argue about any of the possessions.

I am going to miss seeing our son. I will continue to provide support for him. But honestly, you are so vindictive that you will turn him against me, and I really just want him to grow up strong and healthy, so I am not going to bother fighting with you. Just do the best that you can, and please, keep in mind our son should have a positive image of both of us. For my own emotional stability, I can't be around you.

In about 2 months our life is going to change dramatically. And to me, I can't wait. I really just want someone to love. And that is an adventure I really wish to take.

My one regret is not having done this sooner.

Take care.

Relationship Rant PLAYLIST Song 4

Okay WOWSA-I have like 6 new followers since Friday-that is freaking amazing-it must be all these awards and stuff.  In fact, I got another award last week from The Scoop On Poop called the Beautiful Blog Award.  Scoop-you are beautiful for giving me this award-poop and all!

Can you believe this, not only do I have substance, and versatility, but now I have a beautiful blog too.  Oh me oh my-I have such a wonderful set of readers.



IN order to accept this award and pass it on I must... give you seven more facts about myself and pass it onto 5 more deserving blogs... so here we go....

1.  My middle name is Anne, as I am half Irish and half Hungarian.   I am named after Anne of Green Gables but I do not look a thing like her.

2.  I love horses and dream of owning my own at some point in my life.

3.  I love to sing and I have been singing since I was like 12, I have even won some money for it and scholarships, but I never got my dream of being Celine's opening act.

4.  I love the water.  I want to live by the water, and I find it so fun and relaxing.  There is nothing better then being at the beach with drink in one hand and cigarette in the other.

5.  I also love gardening.  I do not know why, I guess I got it from my dad.  I just love watching things grow, like I gave them life.  There is something about gardening and getting your hands dirty that is so stress relieving. 

6.  I am a sucker for celebrity gossip.  Yes I am ashamed that I know every horrible thing they do.  My most recent obsessions are Lindsay Lohan and the Gosselin Drama.

7.  I am also obsessed with the following TV shows.
Pretty Little Liars
90210
Gossip Girl
American Idol

And now-5 more blogs that I love...

The Beach Wive Diaries
This is such a neat blog.  There are two bloggers one on the East Coast and one on the West.  They share all their likes, dislikes and differences.  However, they make me jealous that I do not live on a beach with drink in hand.

Love Actually
If you ever need great ideas to spark the romance in your relationship, go here.  This blog gives you the best gift ideas and make-up ideas if you have a fight lol.

Surviving Seventeen

So even if you are not 17 this blog is great.  She has the writing gift, and treats her blog like her diary.  Quite grown up for a 17 year old, but perhaps that is why it appeals to me.

My Husband Misunderstood Me When I Said I Was Bi

I just started reading this blog, but she is fun.  I love wacky women that are not afraid to tell us whats on their mind.

The Adventures of Cinderita

Again, I just started reading this one as well, but she is sooo bubbly and fun I had to recommend her blog.
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And now folks, the segment you have all been waiting for, my Relationship Rant PLAYLIST Song 4 drum roll please....

QUEEN PEEVES

Wow, what an exciting week eh?  I made some new friends, I got some awards, blog life is good.  I am so happy I got to share a few blogs that I enjoy reading, and I love this cycle of blog awards as I get to find out who they pass them onto and in the end what blogs they recommend.  This is great not because of the fame-well maybe a little-but more because of the new prospectives and advice I gain from new readers and followers.  So to my new followers-welcome-now get to work lol.

Anyways since it is Friday before a long weekend I am not going to depress you with relationship problems, but rather just give you a chance to release some tension (not in that way you sicko) by sharing your peeves with me.

I will go first!

My man mumbles-it drives me mad.  Half the time I cannot even hear what he says and the other half I think I hear it, but I cannot make it out, so I assume I heard one thing and then he will be like I just told you I wanted the wrench.  Oh sorry hun, I thought you said go sit on the bench.

At first I thought it was me, so I cleaned the ears and did a self hearing test, nope all good in those departments.  Now after over five years-I am not the only one that says to him-speak up-pronounciate your words- we talk to him like English is his second language lol.

He even admits he is a mumblin man.  However, it is a problem especially when in certain situations, like driving, go right he will say and then I will be like- no I am okay-and he will be like no go right here, and I am like oh I thought you asked if I wanted a bite, by then we are the freakin highway passing our destination, and I suddenly have an urge for pizza.

So whats your peeve?  I am sure your loved ones aggravate you with some little folly... do share!

Relationship Rant: POLL

Well you are all too amazing.  Thank you for your wonderful advice.  I know when people put time into things, and you all do that so well.  I feel you really do truly want to help me and others with their relationship rants and problems.  I am so glad to be able to call you my friends, and I will try to give you all the same appreciation by visiting your blogs and being helpful-just like all of you have been to me.

So I am a busy Queen today, so I only have time to put this quick poll out to all of you awesome readers and followers.....

This poll was inspired by A Day in The Wife as her funny story about her boss finding out about her blog made me laugh... so I have a juicy question that I want answered by you all...

Do your friends and family know about your blog?

PS-Follow me so you never miss a rant!

Send me your rants, and get advice from me and my readers-c'mon people we are in a recession and you are still paying for therapy???

Summer Fling

Queen,

Ok, so I'm not in a relationship but have a stupid guy situation (aren't they all??)

So this guy in an acting class I take downtown and he has been pursuing me unbeknownst to me because I'm blind to those sorts of things, but my friends noticed. Finally he starts Facebook chatting me and eventually asks for my number and calls me. During our phone conversation he mentions how he doesn't want to be in a relationship and he was casually seeing this girl but he's over it. (First of all WHY is he telling me this?) 

After an hour of talking he and I start talking about how we should hang out and he says, "How about right now??" Now, I'm not looking to get a relationship with this guy, I just want a summer fling. So I say sure.

He lives 2 hours away SO HE DRIVES 2 HOURS at 11pm to come see me. Dedication, right??

So one thing leads to another and he spends the night and it. was. AWESOME. Seriously, good. In the morning he urges me to be late to work, etc.

I was like alllllllllll riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SUMMER FLING!!!!!!!! WOOOOOOO!

So...now...he hasn't mentioned it happening again and since I see him every week in this class how does this work?! I've never been a fling sort of person so ALL advice is much needed. (Keep in mind this happened 2 days ago) Is it bad he hasn't texted me at all? How do I get a repeat performance without seeming needy??? How do I know if he even wants one?!

THANKKKKKKKKK YOU for any advice you can offer!

"I'm Effin Pregnant"

Queen,
I was in a relationship with the same guy for 2 yrs. It started off just casual and then after about 8 months we decided to make it official. I let him meet my kids, interact with them, spend time with us at family gatherings, and everything in between. We even went on vacation together this spring. After coming home from a place that was warm and not reality... everything changed. He told me we should just split up, then 3 days later he said he didn't mean it. I was so hurt by that! So when he said he didn't mean it I told him I thought he was right and enough was enough, we should end it. Well 3 weeks later..... I find out I'm F-ING pregnant and so screwed. I am already a mother of 2 without any support, now this????????????? OMG anybody out there with an opinion please help, good or bad!  Do I try to work things out, keep the baby, my head is going crazy, how can I trust a guy who changes his F-ING mind every 3 days????

Party Girl

Queen,
My girlfriend went home to visit her family for a week. She, basically partied every night with her friends. She parties alot with her little sister, and all her friends. So if she is out until 4 or 5 am, I get the excuse that she is with her family. but it's more like her sister and a slew full of guys. Anyway my issue is that she didn't even wan't to come home. So much that she extended her stay an extra night. And the day she was coming home she was texting me: "I wish I could stay :( "

I'm so flustered, I don't even know what to think anymore. Her side is that she does not get to see her family and friends and misses them very much. But it's not exactly a "Brady Bunch" family visit. Because she just parties everynight there. I fully understand she misses her family and wan't to give her space. But shouldn't she be excited to come home? Also her job requires her to be working on the road alot, probably 10 to 15 days per month, where she also likes to party late at night with her regular crew of friends that work with her. She went to Dublin Ireland for 3 weeks, and would call me every night. One night she didn't call me until like midnight my time and it was 6 am there. She said she was chasing her girlfriend all night cause she was super drunk.

I do have some issues with woman, based on past relationships. And I realize that I probably shouldn't have gotten into one until I worked out these problems, but it is too late, and we are in love. I can't get over the fact, of a past relationship with someone. Who says they love you everyday, you tell eachother about your deepest intimate emotions, to later find out that they have been fucking behind your back the whole time. (My so called friend who I put on my couch, called and told me after he moved away) so that's how I found out.

She is always asking me to marry her? Which is confusing to me, as her life of partying does not seem to fit this criteria. And before she left we found out she was pregnant, but decided she did not want it. I did but I know I can't force her, as it is a dual decision. But she just went and partied it up.

This is quite a messed up situation, I don't know if anyone has been there, or has any advice for me to say to her. Because she always seem to come up with a likely story, and turns it around on me. Which makes me feel like I am wrong. I dunno, maybe I am.