The Baby Weight Challenge

Hey Queen,

I'm a twenty something woman. I got knocked up by a friend with benefits and we have tried the relationship thing and for the most part do a good job.

Recently he gave me a letter telling me he is only "somewhat attracted to me now" since having the baby, and that our main issue is my new weight. I know my body has changed... I gave birth less than a year ago. I got an elliptical trainer and when I work out he sits and eats pizza and entire boxes of Pudding in front of me, and refuses to get healthy together. He isn't exactly a ball full of fitness himself, and I'm not sure exactly where he gets off saying these things to me, but I want to at least understand it.

I've included the part of the letter that bothers me the most for you to read and a before and after shot. I'm not a LOT heavier... but we also got pregnant at the peak of my fitness when I was getting accepted into a career that required me to be very physically fit.

I'm feeling very discouraged, but I can handle the truth. What is your take on it?... please be blunt. I need to understand why this is happening. In terms of how much weight I have gained, its a solid 20 lbs.
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the letter
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"A big issue between us is your weight and I understand its hard with just having a baby and a husband who doesn't help all the time. I am still somewhat sexually attracted to you but it has diminished with your weight. This is a big issue because I do want to have that awesome looking wife that is the total package and I totally think that could be you. I want you to be that wife that everyone looks at and says "he's lucky" and I know I have some of it right now with your personality and all you need is fine tuning"

It's Not My Baby's Fault!

Dear Queen,
I can't stop the tears from coming out of my eyes...
I am 7 months pregnant, extremely happy with my fiance, we have a beautiful relationship and and awesome life together I love him with all my heart. But there is one thing that really gets to me: HIS FAMILY!

Brian and I have our own apartment and have been independent now for 7 months, which coincides with the time I have of being pregnant, and in those seven months, no one has come over to see how we are doing, to visit, to hang out, just to be nice...
I know they might not like me. I am sort of a loner and keep to myself most of the time. I never give my opinion without it being asked and try to stay as far as possible from family problems, but COME ON! My baby is THEIR blood and nobody seems to care.

When I first told my mother in law we were having a kid, the first thing she told me is that if we wanted to abort she would support us...
IDK maybe I'm just being sensitive but it truly hurts. I had plans of doing my baby shower this weekend and had to cancel it because it seems everyone has something to do that day! For some reason, everybody is busy that weekend and I am stuck with a bunch of invitations that never made it to their intended guests...

I have (literally) no family here since they are all in Mexico or scattered all over the states, and since like I said, I keep to myself alot, I only have a handful of close friends.

In seven months, I have only got ONE present for my baby. And like I said, no visits, no company to my Dr.s appointments, JUST NOTHING!
I can't help it but cry. The only one that has been there is Brian's sister who has a 4 month daughter. She gives me advice here and there but is too busy learning how to be a mom as well to focus on cry-baby me.

My fiance works over 12 hours everyday and I just feel alone all the time! I know I have to be strong but I do wish things were a little different because if his family doesn't like me THAT IS NOT MY BABY'S FAULT!
Sincerely,
Crying Pregnant Woman