My Wife The Bitch Take 2: A Reply From the Queen

Well sir-thank you for the warning and looking out for all us females that may have been hiding under a rock our whole lives and do not know that a mans penis controls alot more then our orgasms.   Now granted any woman that does not want to have sex on their honeymoon is a little strange, but I think the issue is not where she is or if she is on a honeymoon or not, but rather then she just does not want to have sex... with you, perhaps with anyone else for that matter.

So instead of telling everyone how horrible she is because my god who would not want to have sex with a fine organism like yourself-I mean she must be fucking crazy right?

Wrong!  She is one of many women who finds it difficult to connect with her husband.  What have you done to go out of your way to make her feel loved, special or better yet... sexy?  I assume nothing because I mean you admit here that the ONLY SINGLE reason you married your wife was to get sex.

Now lets fast forward because you are very fucking long winded, but you say that you have no problem getting sex in other places, so what exactly was the point of getting married.  I mean you say yourself that she has nothing else to offer men other then her body, that you do not even enjoy her company and that she has no intellect.  So I pose that question again, why did you get married?  For sex? (Shhh... Stop laughing everyone) Are you fucking brain dead-have you ever met a married person before?  Do you hear them boasting about the amazing sex they had last night... no you do not because alot of married peoples sex lives wind down to sex a couple times a week-if they are lucky (and do not have children).

Now here is the first clue as to why your wife does not want to have sex with you.... Get ready.... BECAUSE YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE.  I can smell you over my computer, you are rude, and arrogant, and you sound butt fucking ugly too.  I mean who says this about their wife "Outside of willing, eager participation in sex, you are nothing but a nuisance, a liability, an annoying distraction, interrupting my otherwise constant state of serenity, and my flow of good ideas".  Again you sound like a pussy!  Have you ever said anything to your wife about this, or did you pussy foot around it like you say you did in this rant?  So instead of asking her what is wrong, and telling her how she makes you feel you just go out and put your dick in some other vagina.  Fuck.

Do not try to justify your worthless behaviour!  Do not speak to the world like you think you are some sort of force to be reckoned with, trust me you are nothing more then a bitter guy that got controlled by his wife for too long.  You never really did stand up to her.  You ran out like a scared little boy, and did not even have the balls to tell her how you feel in person.

When the tables turn-and trust me buddy-they will.  When you could not get your dick up to save your life-you will see how it feels to have someone you love leave you because of an inadequacy that you cannot even control.

How do you know your wife does not have cervical cancer which leads to a low libido?  Was she on the pill?  Same outcome.... How do you know she was not depressed?  Better yet how do you know her vagina is not depressed (yes that is a real thing).

Instead of chalking your wifes actions up to being a controlling tyrant, take a look in the mirror and at your inactions that may have caused this in the first place.  Karma is a bitch, and you just pissed her off.

Begging To Be Caught

Queen,
I am single and dating a man who is living with another woman. I met him while traveling for work at a client site. In a nutshell, that's the background-he is cheating.

Before he left for work the other day, he asked me if he can have my underwear??? I mean, I thought that was a weird request. But I was like, “um, okay”. He said he misses me so much that he wanted something of mine. I suggested taking my fuckin’ luggage too, that way I don’t have to pack lol. He insisted he only wanted my (used) underwear and thanked me for the offer of my luggage.

Anyway, I guess he brought my underwear home and he said he tucked it in the back of his closet – where it has resided for …a long time. About a month ago, his girlfriend asked him to pick up the dry cleaning. He said it was a weird request because he has only picked it up once before during their entire relationship. He gets to the dry cleaners and at the very front of all the dry cleaning was that pair of underwear. He thought he was so slick by just throwing it out – I told him she is sending you a message…The message being SHE KNOWS YOU ARE FUCKING AROUND!!!

Don’t you think his girlfriend knows and was sending him a message? Bringing home my underwear? He is begging to be caught!!

My Husband Is A Cyber Cheater

Queen,
So yeah, my husband freakin likes to get online and sign up for singles sites or he'll create profiles on mocospace, myspace and all that other crap, and he gets girls to call him. He then lies to them, telling them he's a single dad (because lets face it, you can't ignore the kid in the background). Or he'll send them messages and shit, and tell them how beautiful they are. WTF?!?! He never tells me that sh*t!!! I have caught him doing this on many occasions in our 2 years of being together. He gets caught, says he's sorry, and then waits about 3 to 4 months before he f*cks up again.

At this point, I'm like, whatever, about it. F*ck it, i can't afford to move out and I can't afford for him to move out, so f*ck it right? Every man will have their flaw. Seriously, like I can hope for some great guy to walk into my life?? Please, that "hopeless romantic" part of me died years and years ago. Sometimes I miss her. awwww. Whatever.

He even said he would go to sexaholics anonymous, got in touch w/ some dude there and then never went. He just said it to make me think he was remorseful and actually wanted to change I guess. Whatever the f*ck! I got his game down now! No one is believing the lies! Reminds me of that Eminem song, Love the Way You Lie, except instead of the physical abuse, it's more emotional, or it was.

Now I'm just freakin cold about sh*t.

He says, "I Love You"----I hear, "I LIE"
He says, "I'm sorry"-----I hear, "I LIE"
He says, "I won't do it again"----I hear, "I LIE"

If times weren't so rough, and money so low, I'm pretty sure he'd be gone. Whatever I guess.

Just f*cken leave so I can mourn the loss of our relationship and what were once nice days. Eventually the stupid a*s tears will dry and guess what? I'm gonna be okay.

My Wife... The Bitch (Parental Advisory Warning-Language)

Queen, This one goes out to my wife... the bitch.

I have about had my fill of being around an unappreciative bitch day in and day out. I have had enough of seeing nothing but your back when we go to bed at night. I work my ass off 6 days a week and my reward is hearing you bitch and whine about how I don't do anything with the family. But when I AM home you have stupid shit that you have to go do, so what the fuck difference does it make whether I'm home or not? I am beginning to think that your just pissed because you want a babysitter at home so you can go do whatever it is that you want to do.

I had a very rare 3 day weekend. You had to work today so I thought I would be nice and do some extra cleaning. I scrubbed the damn shower so clean that you could eat off the floor. I washed and put away the dishes and organized our cupboards. I got on my hands and knees and used resolve powder and a brush to get out every little dirty spot in the living and dining room rug. I thawed out the pot roast and slow cooked it in the oven so that it would be nice and tender and ready when you got home. AND WHAT WAS MY THANKS? You yelled at me because you were not planning on having roast tonight!!!!

So you didn't feel like eating roast tonight. WHOOPTY FUCKIN DOO! The polite thing to do would be to say thank you but I was in the mood for this chicken that I bought at the store and then to look around to see how FUCKIN clean the house was and say something, ANYTHING positive. BUT NO....Your too much of a proud bitch to do anything like that. I tell you what, go ahead and eat that chicken you brought home with a side serving of GOFUKYOURSELF and a couple of spoonfulls of FINDSOMEOTHERSUCKER cuz I think I am done with your dumb ass. You think that your shit don't stink and that you can say or do anything that you want and I am going to take that kind of shit? I don't think so!!!!

To you and all the other wives that take their husbands or boyfriends for granted: WAKE THE FUCK UP!!! You wanna know why most married men are tempted to cheat? HERE'S YOUR FUCKING SIGN!

And to any naysayers out there; what I did today was not unusual. I help with the cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, feeding pets...etc. I show my wife affection by rubbing her feet and shoulders whenever she asks me too. I think I just might start looking around for someone who will be thankful for a guy like me. 

You Married The Guy You Cheated On Me With!

Queen,
So we got together some years ago; after one date you asked me to be yours.
I was nervous since we only knew each other for four weeks but I decided to take a leap of faith
You said I was lucky to have you because my ex had cheated on me and you said you would never do that to me.
I was your first for a lot of things, which I felt special to be. You supported my decision to do what I wanted to for me.
Never before had I felt like I truly was lucky, to be with someone like you, who really loved me.
We had very little in common, which was funny. Different music, culture, food, and race. All of that didn't matter - we both seemed happy together.
A part of me felt something was wrong...I ignored it thinking it was me paranoid about nothing.
I am offered a job in another state...maybe it was wrong, but I felt like I had to leave you behind.
I wanted to be an asshole so I treated you like crap as I kicked you out of my life so I can take the job.
I drive home full of regret and drive back to you hoping you'd forgive me for what I had done.
You seemed to have forgiven me, but I knew I had lost your trust.
However, I hoped that you would learn to trust me again.
I start to work really hard at work and in school, trying to create a life that would be good for us both.
I end up working too much and schooling as well, sometimes going days without talking to you.
You tell me about your "friends" you have and I know they were guys. However, I turn the other cheek
because you told me you would never cheat on me because you didn't even want to blow these guys.
I let you live your life not wanting to be controlling feeling like I had to give more to you so I can be forgiven.
One day months later, its more quiet than usual after you told me the night before how much we need
to go to a theme park and spend time together. The day that things flipped upside down and spun out of
control, I felt like something was ripped apart inside me. You told me you didn't want to be with me any longer and not giving me a straight answer and making me wonder. You tell me to hang on because you still wanted me in your life one way or another. I blamed myself thinking this was 110% my fault, and try to show you that I really loved you and still called you my girlfriend. Months go by and I drive myself nuts trying to win you back and found out there was another. I get fed up with competing and confront you both causing a scene, but funny I'm hearing the other didn't know about me. I find out more info that really was interesting...you were banging him on the day we were celebrating my birthday. Through others in your circle of friends and family, I found
out you were banging half of So Cali! One guy, two guys at once, even three guys in a two hour space.
Sending the kiddies upstairs while you did the deed in your family's house bathroom, were you smoking weed?
Sure you admit only after it was all said and done - I already found out so what was there to lose? The guy I was competing with. The guy I really hated. The guy who said he had no clue about me, later do I realize there was a hole in the story. He was porking you from the very beginning of the time you started to cheat.
Obviously it was a cover story so I wouldn't beat the snot out of him.
He acts like he wants nothing to do with you. Later after I walk away, you say that I should have learned to be more patient...whatever that means.
Three years later I happen to see you were still working at the place in the building I was hired for a job at.
I see you, but I'm pretty sure you didn't see me - I decide to not work at the place cause I didn't want to see your face.
Now forward to today, I see you have the surname of the guy that told me the final months of our relationship was really a lie. Amazing how things turn out despite the pain you caused, I really hope you don't do what you shouldn't have been doing. Cheating on me, while your family was asleep.
And of course, a part of me will always wonder - could things have been different?
Maybe in another lifetime...
Although if you were to come up to me and wanted to start over, I would say no way because I don't love you and never could again. What am I feeling? Maybe territorial - should have been me? Maybe a hurt ego? I wasn't good enough so you became a slut meeting random guys. Maybe disgust? Innocence you showed... that was it, it was only a show. Maybe stupid? Yeah that, too!
For the last four years, I have been with another - one that has been not only loving but likes for me to keep tabs on her cause it shows I love her.
Now I am about ready to control my destiny further and buy myself a huge house, my father a car.
Alls
All that bling you always liked to see on those rap videos on MTV.
You wanted to visit your family in Southeast Asia, can you imagine what this latin guy could do - could have flown us both just to make you smile.
Miss me yet?!
Man I feel better!

My Boyfriends Best Friend

Queen,

My boyfriend actually he's my fiance', has a best female friend that has been his friend long before I came into the picture. However the only reason why they just stayed friends according to her is that he is not her type but if he was I know he would have tried to hook up with her on a relationship level. He's told me this himself which I think wasn't a good idea to tell me. Anyway I have been trying really hard to deal with their friendship especially since she assured me that they are just friends and she has no intentions on taking it any further with him. They both said they look at each other like brother and sister. Even though I'm 99% sure they are just friends and it's not sexual in any means I still get a little annoyed at how close they are.

Here's some of the things that annoy me. They are always texting and talking to each other on a daily basis. They both work for the post office and were working at the same office until she moved to another office recently so I can understand they may have work related issues to discuss but the way they talk to each other just puzzles me...There are times when they tell each other "I love you", and they call each other baby sometimes, (which he does have a habit of calling women baby in general), I know for a fact he tells her things he doesn't tell me, they say little nasty remarks to each other sometimes, they have a night where they bowl on a team together. I know they meet up for lunch some times which he doesn't tell me about, I just found this out on my own. I really don't think this is cool because when he does things behind my back I feel he's hiding something.. If they are just friends what's wrong with him telling me they have lunch sometimes!

Am I just jealous or would this bother some of you if your mate had a friendship like this. I know there could be a part of me that could just be jealous because I gave up all my male friends when I got into this committed relationship because I just feel it causes problems in the relationship when you are constantly dealing with the opposite sex and they become a priority over your mate. I also moved here solely to be with him so I have no friends here at all. So perhaps his friendship with this girl stands out more because I don't have my own friends here. I'm also the type of woman that if I do have a male friend and he gets into a committed relationship I back off a little because I wouldn't want to make his woman uncomfortable. I surely wouldn't be texting and talking to him constantly but that's just how I feel about things. Well I'm basically just ranting because I'm not going to do anything about it because other than this our relationship is fine and we get along good. I just hate to have things waying on my heart so I thought I would see what others thought. And yes I have spoken to him about this before and he tells me I have nothing to be concerned about because they are just friends and I should let it go...I'm seriously thinking of finding a male friend of my own and see how he likes it if I treat him how he treats his female friend...

Please Help-Need Advice

Queen,
I'm married with a two year old son.

Around a year and a half ago, I became close to a female friend of mine, who is also married. This grew quickly and I fell in love with her and she fell in love with me. It kept growing and growing and got to the point that we could not see enough of each other, finding every spare moment to spend together and trying not to arouse suspicion amongst our partners.

After around 9 months this turned physical. Soon after our partners found out. By this stage I was so in love with her that I told her that I would leave my wife to be with her. She decided not to do it, saying that she couldn't live with herself breaking up my family and she believed that in the long run it would be better for me to stay with my wife.

This wasn't an easy decision for her and we made a date to end our relationship. I decided to move overseas with my wife and son as I felt like I could not set her free and set myself free if I remained close to her. I wanted her to be happy and live her life as she had planned it before I came along. We had many tearful farewells and I left.

Now I have been overseas for four months. I feel completely lost and lonely. My every thought wants to be back with her. I've tried so hard to rekindle my love for my wife, but I feel nothing for her. I want the best for her and want her to be happy but I just can't love her and give her what she needs.

She is determined to stay with me and although she has crucified and crucified me so much over being with my lover she still maintains her love for me.

The other factor is my son. He is so happy, he loves life and he loves my wife and I. It would break his heart for us to be apart. But my heart is broken, I am such a mess...every day I just have to tell myself that I'm doing this for him and have to pretend to my wife that I love her and want to be with her.

And I know back home, that my lover is dying inside too and wants me as much as I want her. She was brave and selfless to choose not to be with me. But I question every day whether it was really the right decision, and I'm sure she does too.

I feel like I can never be happy again. I feel that I have no option but to suffer in silence and be with my wife for the good of my son. But this suffering is driving me into depression and I feel helpless and feel like giving in.

I don't know what to do....please help....and please do not berate my for what has happened, just please help me build my future. I do not love my wife at at all.

Cheating on a Gem

I am so sick and tired of hearing how all these stupid men are cheating on their beautiful wives.  First there was Tiger Woods, now Sandra Bullock, David Letterman, David Boreanaz, Mel Gibson, Larry King, and the list goes on and on.  I just do not understand what would make a man happy if these women can't.  I am not famous, nor rich, so how can I expect my man not to cheat when all these guys do it, and they have it all.  Not to mention these women are drop dead gorgeous, and I am not.  A lot of them have children together, it all makes me sick.  Talk about not knowing you have a good thing til its gone!  I hope your wives leave you, as you are all sorry excuses for men and do not deserve to be where you are at.