Queen, Please help!
Okay I am stuck between a rock and a hard spot. I am currently married but here in LA alone. I had to move out here for work and the wife and kid had to stay at home because she has another kid from a previous relationship and her and the father share 50% custody. It is broken down by week so it makes it really hard and impossible for her or my son to ever be here with me. We have paid 7k for a lawyer and nothing came out of it, all the judge said if it aint broke don't try to fix it.
Since I have been out here it gets very lonely and depressing since I feel so alone. I need that physical, sexual, and emotional feeling here. I have been a good boy since I have been here but day by day it gets harder and harder. I am at the point that if an opportunity came around I am not sure if I could hold back.
I do love my wife and I know many of you are going to tell me I should have thought about the situation before I got into a relationship with her but I didn't. I hate the fact that my son is stuck in the middle of my selfishness and this is exactly what my father did to me. I am happy with her but yet this situation is a lot harder then what I thought it was going to be like. I do go home at least once a month if not more, but when I see her its like that feeling of not seeing someone in a long time, like she isn't really there.
When I am here in LA I just drive around after work because I can't stand going home to an empty apartment. I try to get out as much as I can just so I can over come this feeling. I am just needing any suggestions or ideas that you might have. One thing I failed to leave out is that I am in a contracted job and I still have three more years left on my contract so I know there will be no way of quitting and moving back. Well I appreciate your time and input.
Showing posts with label work. Show all posts
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Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Laundry Is A Process- Clean, Dry, Fold and Put Away
Queen,
So I must admit, I am not a good house wife. I am not a clean freak, and I would rather be getting my hands dirty out gardening then inside doing dishes. I have never been much for house work. However, my home is not messy or dirty I keep it clean and well arranged, but minimally, like I don't bleach the blinds everyday, or wipe down the fridge every time I cook. This infuriates my husband. He says I am lazy and I do not care about the housework. Which is sort of true, I care but it can always wait until tomorrow. I mean it might not be sunny tomorrow, and then I can always clean when it is ugly out right? My husband is not working right now, but expects me to work all day, then come home clean, cook dinner and everything a good housewife does. If I did not work I would have the house spotless, dinner ready when he gets home and all of that, but I expect him to do the majority of the work around the house if I am the only one working? Yet he still complains, and bitches every time he sees me doing anything but 'helping'. Well hunny, doing the laundry does not entail just throwing the stuff in the machine, it is a process, clean, dry, fold and put away, so you did not DO the laundry, you simply put the shit in the washing machine. I did the laundry because I did all the hard parts of the process. So stop complaining and fix the damn bedroom door!

So I must admit, I am not a good house wife. I am not a clean freak, and I would rather be getting my hands dirty out gardening then inside doing dishes. I have never been much for house work. However, my home is not messy or dirty I keep it clean and well arranged, but minimally, like I don't bleach the blinds everyday, or wipe down the fridge every time I cook. This infuriates my husband. He says I am lazy and I do not care about the housework. Which is sort of true, I care but it can always wait until tomorrow. I mean it might not be sunny tomorrow, and then I can always clean when it is ugly out right? My husband is not working right now, but expects me to work all day, then come home clean, cook dinner and everything a good housewife does. If I did not work I would have the house spotless, dinner ready when he gets home and all of that, but I expect him to do the majority of the work around the house if I am the only one working? Yet he still complains, and bitches every time he sees me doing anything but 'helping'. Well hunny, doing the laundry does not entail just throwing the stuff in the machine, it is a process, clean, dry, fold and put away, so you did not DO the laundry, you simply put the shit in the washing machine. I did the laundry because I did all the hard parts of the process. So stop complaining and fix the damn bedroom door!
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